Betrayal Trauma

Partners or spouses of sex addicts

Partners or spouses of sex addicts often experience a tremendous amount of trauma during and after finding out that their loved one is addicted to sexual behaviors.  Shock, denial, anger, hopelessness, helplessness, guilt, shame, and confusion are all natural feelings associated with experiencing betrayal on such a deep, intimate level. Recognizing that you are not responsible or to blame for the behaviors of your partner or spouse is an important first step. Working through your pain and grief while trying to determining your first steps to take for your recovery is vital.  Ask yourself the following questions if you suspect that your partner or spouse has an addiction to pornography or sex:

• 1. Does your partner seem to be preoccupied with sexual thoughts or behaviors?

• 2. Does your partner hide sexual behaviors from you?

• 3. Do you believe your partner needs help for sexual behavior?

• 4. Have you been hurt emotionally because of your partner’s sexual behavior?

• 5. Does your partner seem to be controlled by sexual desire?

• 6. Has your partner accused you of being “crazy” or “jealous” when you question the sexual behavior?

If you answered “Yes” to two or more of these questions, your partner may have a sexual addiction. Schedule an appointment today for a compassionate, safe, and knowledgeable counseling experience for partners or spouses of sex addicts.